It’s been over a month since the big announcement and we have yet to update you on the adoption progress. Much of this is due to the fact that we were in the midst of the home study process. “What’s a home study” you might ask? Well, it is a lengthy report about our entire lives…including family histories, employment, our personalities, our marriage, medical information, financial information, our views of all sorts of adoption-related topics, and the goals for parenting our family. Big stuff. We had a major “leg up” on this aspect of the adoption because writing home studies for families is a big part of my job at Bethany. Due to conflict of interest, we had to find a different agency to write the home study. We are pleased with the agency we chose and have really enjoyed our social worker. As of last Monday, we completed the interview process and are now waiting on her to write our home study. This will be the first big step in approving us to be adoptive parents. While I am light years alway from understanding pregnancy, I imagine this is kind of what it’s like to reach the end of the first trimester and truly grasp there will be a real kid in our lives when this is all said and done.
Speaking of our kid…we have been continually finding ourselves starting conversations with, “well, when our little person is here…” We are trying to wrap our minds around how much our lives will change in the not so distant future. It seems that many parents I talk to say one of my least favorite phrases, “well you know there is no way to prepare to be a parent.” The planner in me and the lifelong learner in both of us, beg to differ. We are sponges ready to suck up any education on adoptive parenting, Uganda, transracial families, toddlers, attachment, child development and parenting in general. We know that our whole experience of parenting will involve continual learning, but we are eager to get a head start. So our Netflix rentals are about Uganda, our leisure reading includes books like Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child, The Connected Child and Growing Up Black in White, and we are consistently bouncing around parenting ideas with friends and family.
In the midst of paperwork, interviews and endless learning, we have been relishing in the thought of adding a member to our family. We can not wait to begin getting to know this little person. While we realize the “getting to know” process will have certain challenges, we love the thought of discovering our child’s personality, interests, skills and heart. We can’t wait to see how this new Denlinger will shape, strengthen and brighten our family!